10 Ways Christian Women Can Be a Helpmeet Beyond Submission - November, 2024
Being a helpmeet in a marriage isn’t just about submission. While Scripture calls wives to submit to their husbands (Ephesians 5:22), it also calls us to love, nurture, and support one another in myriad other ways. In this post, I’ll share ten ways Christian women can embrace their role as a helpmeet beyond submission—ways that uplift, strengthen, and draw a couple closer to God.
1. Encourage His Dreams and Goals
A supportive wife can be her husband’s biggest cheerleader. Proverbs 31:11-12 speaks of a wife who brings good to her husband all her life. Encourage his dreams, whether it’s a job change, furthering his education, or simply trying a new hobby. Your belief in him helps him trust in his God-given abilities.
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2. Listen to Understand, Not to Respond
James 1:19 reminds us to be “quick to listen, slow to speak.” Practicing this actively shows respect and love. Listening without immediate judgment or solution-based advice offers a unique form of support, showing him he’s valued and respected in the relationship.
3. Cultivate a Peaceful and Supportive Home Environment
Proverbs 14:1 reminds us, “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” A peaceful home doesn’t have to be perfect or extravagant, but a welcoming, organized space can offer him a sanctuary from the stresses of the outside world. Little touches—a favorite meal, a note of encouragement, a tidy space—can convey warmth and comfort.
4. Pray for Him Daily
Prayer is one of the most powerful ways you can help your husband. Lift him up to God in your private prayer time, asking for guidance, wisdom, and strength in his life. This quiet act of love shows your dependence on God for your husband’s well-being, as seen in James 5:16, which assures us that “the prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
5. Be a Steward of the Relationship
In Proverbs 31:27, we read that a virtuous woman “watches over the affairs of her household.” Being a helpmeet includes contributing to the relationship’s health by actively nurturing communication, intimacy, and mutual respect. By proactively stewarding your marriage, you can help prevent small issues from escalating.
6. Speak Words of Life and Encouragement
Ephesians 4:29 urges us to speak only “what is helpful for building others up according to their needs.” Words have the power to either lift or tear down, and as his wife, your words can be more influential than anyone else’s. Choose to speak kindly, encourage him daily, and be intentional about complimenting his strengths and abilities.
7. Be Reliable and Trustworthy
Trust is foundational to any strong relationship, and as a Christian wife, reliability is a powerful way to support your husband. Proverbs 31:11 says, “Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.” Consistency and trustworthiness reassure your husband that you’re a dependable partner in the journey.
8. Pursue Your Own Relationship with God
A wife who loves God first is better equipped to love her husband. When you invest in your own spiritual growth through prayer, Bible study, and fellowship, you’re building a reservoir of wisdom, patience, and love that benefits your marriage. Psalm 119:105 tells us, “Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” Let your spiritual growth light the path for your family as well.
9. Be Present and Engaged
This means more than just physically being there. It’s about putting aside distractions and giving him your full attention. Whether it’s a conversation over dinner or simply relaxing together at the end of a long day, your presence signals commitment and care. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 speaks to the strength in companionship, saying, “Two are better than one…if either of them falls, one can help the other up.”
10. Show Appreciation and Gratitude
It’s easy to take one another for granted, especially in the rhythm of daily life. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 reminds us to “give thanks in all circumstances.” Show your husband that you notice and appreciate his efforts. A heartfelt “thank you” or a small act of gratitude can reaffirm his role in your life and bolster his spirit.
Get Deliberate
While we can pray for good spouses, having a good home requires deliberate effort at appropriating grace to be all thTat for wants us to be to our spouses.
Being a helpmeet is about more than submission; it’s about partnership, love, and daily choosing to serve and honor one another in ways that build both your marriage and your faith. Embracing these subtle, powerful acts shows your commitment to being the kind of helpmeet God envisioned in Genesis 2:18: one who supports, strengthens, and nurtures.
Marriage is a journey, and when we look beyond a single concept like submission, we discover that God calls wives to offer a richer, deeper support to their husbands. Let’s strive to be that kind of helpmeet: one rooted in love, empowered by grace, and committed to building a marriage that glorifies God.
May you find joy and strength as you support your spouse in these subtle, yet powerful ways in Jesus name.
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